Keep Your Tweens & Teens Talking with Kerry Stutzman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
Train your boys to talk to you.
Tell them you are safe to talk to.
If you want your Boys to talk to you when they are older, then try and listen more and lecture less!
Listen, don't judge!
If you want your kids to talk to you, then you have to learn to listen!
When you are trying to figure out what to do in an extreme situation, you have 3 choices: Scream, Lecture or Punish. Instead not choosing those try and slow down and use Empathy!
Strategies on how to Listen:
Honor- Honor your children as learners.
Empathy- You can never go wrong with leading a conversation with empathy. Connect and hear what they are thinking. Step in their shoes and try to understand.
Available- Listen and invite your son into a conversation but expect rejection. Don’t let him see that you are reje3cted. Keep open arms and know when to put on the brakes. Find the time to listen and be available!
Remember- Remember that your kids are learners. What kind of mom do you want your boys to have? What did you need more of when you were younger? Answer these questions so oyu know what to pass on to your kids.
Kerry Stutzman, founder of Head & Heart Parents, Licensed marriage & Family Therapist
3600 S. Yosemite Street Suite 1050
Denver, CO 80237