Katie Koestner answered many questions concerning the legal ramifications our boys face today with our ever changing world. Ms. Koestener is a mother of two boys and understands the tricky world we live in.
If something serious has happened in your boy world please reach out to Katie and she can give you honest information. She will guide you in the right direction.
Here are a few notes from Katie’s Talk:
~Boys learn so much from parental relationships. You are modeling communication, affection, admitting mistakes, arguing, boundaries and fun.
~Consent is permission and is needed for every step in a sexual experience. A yes to kissing does not mean a yes to sexual intercourse. Consent can withdrawn at any moment. Silence means NO. Accept rejection, do not try to convince a NO into a YES. A yes 30 minutes prior is not a current yes, need to keep asking.
~The Hookup is the HIGHEST risk activity because the two people do not know each others behaviors and it has the regret syndrome. AVOID AVOID AVOID!
~Use school email for school work. Use private email to communicate with friends and family.
~ Once alcohol is involved DO NOT get intimate.
~Boys should not buy anyone drinks, it’s too risky and could come back to haunt your boys.
~Average age for for sexual experience for boys and girls is 13 years old which means the conversations with boys need to begin earlier.
~Boys should remain neutral if one of their friends is involved in a lawsuit. Do not express any opinion because it could be used against them.
~If a teacher or a coach over hears about inappropriate behavior of any kind they have to report it.
~3 Jurisdictions that can be involved in a legal issue: Campus, Civil and Criminal
Campus: Any action that occurs on school owned or controlled property and any action that occurs off-campus but has a negative impact on the school environment.
Civil: Disputes between members of society
Criminal: State or Federal law broken
~ Good Resource for Questions: www.askalice.com
Thank you Colorado Academy for hosting this event with the MoB.
It was great to see our friends outside of the MoB, aiming to raise good boys into great men.