Coffee Talk with Heather Mulvihill: Life as a Mother of Boys!~ March 2017

As a Mom of three or more boys our lives are filled with so many different emotions. In one day we can experience loneliness, joyfulness, depression, sheer excitement, chaotic stress, warm tender love and belly laughter. And sometimes we are terrified and question if we are raising these boys the right way.   We began to unveiled our true feelings on being a Mom to Boys at our last event.  

Heather Mulvihill lead a discussion about the unique Mother~Son relationship. The relationship with your each boys is very different.  There is no perfect relationship and what works for one might not work for another. What is universal is the need for a bond between a mother and son. Listening with an open heart, accepting our children's uniqueness, learning to separate personhood from behavior and reminding them that they are loved unconditionally will serve them well as they become men.

Every family has its own unique system but some conditions are know to increase stress on mothers.  Being a single parent, having young children, having a child with medical, behavioral or emotional problems all increase stress. We know that stress is contagious in a family system and this can become a vicious cycle.There are many ways we can help ourselves reduce stress such as avoiding social media,not holding ourselves to unrealistic standards and forming strong social connections. We are relational beings, wired to connect and be in relationships with others.

SUPPORTIVE RELATIONSHIPS are nurturing and stress reducing!

We talked about many triggers and difficulties that we face daily. The room was filled with support that was based on the sheer common denominator that we are all raising at least 3 boys and that in itself can have hard days.

The entire recap of this event will be posted on our Private FB group and will be in a MoB mailer to members.

 

Heather has an MS in psychology and an MA in counseling psych.  She is trained in trauma focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Motivational Interviewing and is certified Gestalt psychotherapy.  She works as a mental health consultant to help families and individuals understand their options and connect them with appropriate clinicians or programs.  She also presents to groups or organizations on an array of topics such as, suicide, depression, childhood and adolescence.  She is certified in QPR training and present suicide prevention workshops to train individuals who are not mental health professionals to recognize the warning signs of a suicidal crisis and learn skills for appropriate intervention.  She currently serves as the Chairman of the Board at the Helen and Arthur E. Johnson Depression Center at the University of Colorado's Anshutz Medical Campus.  

 

 

Love Yourself Workshop-"Find Your Inner Strength"- February 2017

 

It's NOT a workOUT but a workIN!

This was a  time to focus on Ourselves and Loving who We are and what We do!  This was a time to give YOURSELF a gift!  A gift of peacefulness and clarity!   The MoB created a special workshop to focus on YOURSELF and the Strength that you have to raise boys!

We are all on this journey of raising boys together.  Most of the time we are racing around taking care of everyone else that we don't give ourselves the time to clear our mind and recharge.  We are all strong and brave but don't necessarily use these traits to help us through the day.  Learn to embrace this and use these characteristics to guide you through your daily challenges of holding down the fort and bringing the family together!  

Our friend and Yogi, Bine Trujillo,  guided us to a place that reset us for the rest of the day.  We learned how to go to a place for more positivity and strength to get us through challenging times.  There are many ways to get to this special place:  finding your inner peace,  meditation, yoga, breathing practices and even a quiet space.  On this day, Bine took us through a special journey and concluded with peaceful mediation.  Each of us were given a handmade beautiful pink stone with "LOVE" etched in it to remind us to love ourselves and each other!

The Myth of Safety: Why Kids Need Grit!~January 2017

We live in a time of unexpected, unimaginable circumstances happening almost daily in our lives.  One of the most important traits as parents is to keep our kids safe and protect them.  But by overprotecting our kids and giving them easy/safe ways to handle situations is only a disservice to them.  We are holding our kids back from learninig the hard way and how they can overcome life challenges. Even with all of these horrific events we still need to teach our kids to have "Grit"!  Research has shown that in order for our kids to thrive and be successful, they need to have grit!  Rick Lawrence took us through this process of how we can instill "Grit" into our kids lives!  

Rick Lawrence is an award winning author, journalist, cultural researcher, business leader and national speaker.  He's been executive editor of GROUP Magazine for 28 years.  He has been interviewed by national publications and media outlets including The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The New York Times.

Rick Lawrence spoke about:

  • The unintended consequences of our obsession with Safety
  • Keys to helping children of all ages overcome challenges
  • Practical ways to hep your kids become stronger

MoBsters and Gangsters 1920's Night of Revelry

We had a night to remember with delicious Speakeasy Fare from Bill Westergard and a Cocktail Station with Bottle Shop 33.  Lamb Sliders, Cheddar Cream Biscuits with Filet Mignon, Savory Chicken Salad in Puff Pastry and Potato Soup filled bellies while we had an interactive  bar where we learned how to create a Bee Knee's, Manhattan, Old Fashioned and The Bootlegger. 1920's music filled Johnson's Joint while Melissa Hirsch snapped wonderful photo booth style shots of everyone in their Gatsby/ Prohibition get ups!  Later, Shaun Dashjian lead the Gangsters and MoBsters on the dance floor teaching all of us the Jitterbug.  What a PARTY!

Breaching the Barrier: How to Navigate A Comfortable Conversation with your Son about the birds, bees and everything in between!

SEX is not an easy topic for parents to talk about with their kids, but Auburn Meisner, licensed social worker and sex therapist made this topic a bit easier for us!  With a bit of humor and solid facts we started a much needed conversation between just the Moms.  We just scratched the surface with this complicated and heated subject. 

More details to come stay posted!

A few of the topics that Auburn presented to The MoB:

  • Sexual development in boys from 2 years old through their teenage years.
  • Current statistics on the sexual activity and boys.
  • How technology has changed the way boys relate to themselves and others sexually and emotionally and what the implications these changes have on boys.
  • How mothers can effectively and confidently navigate the ever changing technological landscape in order to relate, connect and influence their sons to develop healthy, fulfilling sexual identities.
  • How mothers can have age age-appropriate and comfortable conversations with their boys.

 

MoB Event with Janie Porter

The MoB flew, Janie Porter,  all the way from Florida! to come speak to MoBsters!  Janie was a prestigious tv news reporter for 8 years, but is now a stay at home mom to her beautiful 3 boys!!!  Janie has created her own site called Shejustglows.com, where she shares how small choices helped her lose 25lbs and empowers readers to find their inner glow through food, fitness and believing their worth it!  

Janie shared hilarious stories from her world of mothering 3 boys, all of them 5 years old and under, through a lens of joy, gratitude and authenticity.   She showed us her favorite ways to feel put together, even if she only has 5 minutes to get ready, and her favorite way to keep up the household, even with limited time and attention.  Janie took us through how she began "owning" her mothering , rather than letting others define her.  How she stopped allowing comparison to rob the joy from her motherhood and how she's self-taught in the art of taking care of herself, even if it's just a 5 minute home manicure!   These few hours made us realize we are not alone and that a few simple changes can help ease our everyday stress and increase our happiness!  We always feel very connected when MoBsters share their thoughts, ideas and everyday real life situations with our boys.  When Janie read her blog entry, "Dear Depressed Moms You are Not Alone", hit home with everyone  and actually only scratched the surface with our members!